Examine the people who are unhappy in this world. The majority will be the ones who stick on to rigid rules, being too much rigid, and following the conventional rules either imposed by parents/society or their own early life lessons. They don't want to experience life. The rules in their mind governs their life. And who has created the rules for them? Either their parents or elders. What makes them stick on to the old conventions. It is FEAR that controls them.Many problems are rooted in fear. Living by a rigid set of rules, your emotional experience becomes limited and you enjoy very less in life.
Fear of failure, fear of not being good enough,fear of being alone, fear of being isolated, fear of what others will think all control our mind. These all start from lack of trust in yourself, and in the present moment. If we learn to let go of all these fears/concerns and enjoy life as it comes it becomes more beautiful.
Letting go becomes a process of accepting that we can’t control other people. Life isn’t
something we control, no matter how much we try. Know that you can’t control much in life, but you can always control your reaction.
Every object, every life situation, every person is impermanent.
Forget & Forgive
If someone did something wrong to you, we feel angry with them. That is quite natural. But if we want to take revenge on them and wants to hurt them. In that case we suffer the more. To make mistake is natural. If we are ready to admit and take responsibility for our mistakes then it is ok. If we choose not to forgive, we carry anger and resentment into future situations and deprive ourselves of the peace of mind.
Expectations in life
We all have expectation on how people should treat us. We have expectations on friends/relatives/office friends etc. When the expectations doesn't match we feel frustrated. Seeing people as they are helps you to have a better relationship with them. Let go of all unrealistic expectations in life.
Give up the beliefs and habits that are holding you back. Respect yourself enough to let go of anything that no longer works for you.
Letting go of attachment to a particular perspective and be open to all view points.
The more flexible, tolerant and open minded we are, the more happier we become.