Salt and Pepper

Salt and Pepper

It was Sunday morning. Meera woke up pretty late and switched on the radio. It was her birthday and she saw more than a dozen missed calls of Shyam in her mobile. She switched off her cell and sat in the sofa reading the paper. It has been exacly one year she talked with him.

What we are now listening is  a lecture by Dr. Madhumitha on 'Marriages - are they made in heaven'? Meera increased radio volume.

If a marriage is to be beautiful both the partners should have respect,love and  care.
Like two shakers of salt and pepper both of them are inevitable. Todays divorces happen because no one is serious in maintaning the love effects. The word 'DIVORCE' which was not known to our grandparents and not even common among our parents, has now been commom in 80% marriages. Egos, lack of care, critizing, unrealistic expectation all adds up to it.Make a councious effort to satisy your partners desires, you can see it gets reciprocated and it will be beautiful. It needs sacrifice, sharing, and selfless attitude.  If both partner does  frequent self-analysis and concentrates on correcting his/her own imperfections , then transformation comes and marriage will surely be a beautiful journey. When frustrations happens just relax relax and just rewind the good old days.

The lecture continued and Meera was rewinding the picture album in her mind. Their first meeting, the letters they mailed, the pretty lot of gifts they exchanged, the six month's wait peiod after the engagement.

She looked at clock and noticed it was noon. She switched on the mobile. There again was few missed calls from him and a message. You Are The Butter To My Bread and the breath to my life Meera. I can't miss you anymore. Shre read it again and again and tears started rolling down.

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Stop Over Analyzing, Life is Simple

Stop Over Analyzing, Life is Simple

I was thinking of my post's topic today and this quote inspired me to write.

God has gifted us with ability to think and if we are not using this properly, it will have adverse effects.

I have observed two types of people

Type 1 - They possess almost everything that is required for a good life, but will analyze the consequence of even a simple action and make assumptions on  how things will turn around. They are focused more on future than on present moment. This over analysis process results in a combination of these feelings - anger, dissatisfaction, jealousy, fear, doubt, confusion, etc

Type 2 - They never let their thoughts control them. They perform their duties well and are always energetic. They enjoy each and every moment of their life.

Life is unpredictable.Over thinking ruins relations and creates unnecessary problems.

Attribute that I dislike most

I had been thinking a lot about the attitude that irritates me the most, and the answer I found is negativity. I categorized the people I have met in my life based on this and the differences I found between optimistic and pessimistic people are the following

1. An optimist always have a sense of gratitude

2. He belives life is a journey and every problem is an opportunity given by GOD to make him strong

3. Whatever happens he is always at ease.

4. They worry less on what they lack and feels happy on what all blessings they have.

5. They always are grateful

I found them successful in life even after setbacks in life. They are always HAPPY.

Pessimist

1. Their belief system are their guide. They easily jump into wrong assumptions and judgements

2. Easily depressed even a  small loss in their expectation and gives up easily

3. Lock themselves in an inner world

4. Hold on grudges and distance himself from a problem rather than dealing with the real problem

3. Live with ego and take every thing personally

Gifts for my child

Five  things that I would want to gift my child for secure future 
 

Our present society  is in desperate need of good parents who can  inspire and motivate their children to pursue their dreams and reach their potential.We can contribute to the society a lot by raising children with the following virtues. We can teach them by being a good example 

I will gift my child with the following traits

1. Self Confidence and courage to face the challenges in life

2. Freedom to think and act - Give them the freedom to think and take decissions.

3. Gratitude & love for all - Gratitude sure makes the world a better place

4. Honesty - Children should be taught that truthfulness is critical in all of our interactions with other people

5. Humility - They need to assess their strengths and weaknesses, should be ready to accept their mistakes.

This post is a part of the 1001 Gifts Activity by HDFC Life in association with BlogAdda

Connection between happiness and judgemental

Read an article on Happiness and these are some thoughts arising of it.

It is a common mistake done by us in dealing with others, we assume that they share the same view of reality as we do.We usually ignore each one is from a different background, have different opinions, have different preferences. We expect them to behave as we wish and when when it doesn't happens we are unhappy.


Our mind is programmed to be judgmental.A pretty lot of negative energy is being wasted when we are judgmental.  Since judgment comes so naturally and easily to us, breaking the habit is difficult.

1. Just focus on only the positive side of people.

2. Always have some empathy for others. This will surely reduce the urge to judge others.

3. Don't assume you and your thoughts are always right.


4. Do we actually have the right to ask "Why they are not behaving like what I expect?". I think this is the most foolish question we ask.

From my own life experiences I have felt I was always in trouble whenever I was judgmental.

Some quotes on this

Judge nothing, you will be happy.
Forgive everything, you will be happier.
Love everything, you will be happiest.

What all am I thankful for in life??

What all am I thankful for in life??


One of the main reasons that we lose our enthusiasm in life is because we become ungrateful..we let what was once a miracle become common to us. We get so accustomed to his goodness it becomes a routine

It is not length of life, but depth of life. Everybody dies, but not everybody lives.


It doesn't matter if the glass is half empty or half full. Be thankful that you have a glass - and grateful that there's something in it.


It's sad when the people who gave you the best memories, become a memory. Sometimes you'll never know the true value of a moment until it becomes a memory.

These quotes made me think for a while. Our life is the biggest gift from the GOD. 

So trying to list the items that I am thankful for

1. My life
2. Lovely people all around. I found instead of judging people, accept everyone and then there is love. Having people to love and support is indeed a great blessing
3. All experiences in life either good or bad
4. Hope - It always energizes my life

Integrity - the most important virtue

I believe the most important quality that I will try to instill on my child as a parent would be INTEGRITY.

To me it means doing the right thing, even when no one is watching us or being true to yourself.It is so essential to who and what you ultimately will become. We all have different goals on life, but each one of us should achieve these through straight forward paths. It is a truthfulness which is not only within you, but also in the whole world before you

There is a famous quote on this - If you have integrity, nothing else matters. And if you don’t have integrity, nothing else matters. We must all find ways to contribute to something bigger than ourselves. We must never, ever sacrifice our integrity. If we do each of these things, we will have the best opportunity to be successful personally and professionally. The story of Jean Val jean is a good example of this.

We all have a responsibility to our nation, Cultivating the virtue of integrity plays a huge role in it. Integrity is taking responsibility for our actions and not blaming others.

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