Maintaining relationships healthier

Relationships are the most prized possession anyone can ever have. But still, many of us at many different times in life faces issues in relationship.

1. Love Unconditionally -  Unconditional love is when you love someone the way he or she is , not the way you want him or her to be. Don't expect anything in return.

2. Appreciate  - Learn to appreciate

3. Expect not and Accept more

4. Give space - Trust each other and give space so that both persons can grow.

5. Admit mistakes honestly - If you make mistake, admit it honestly. Genuine apology made and accepted has a significant role in maintaining relations.


6. Learn the art of forgiving

Magic of love

Meera took her mobile and checked the new year messages in her mobile.

As the time for new beginnings arrives
I wish
As a fairy with a magic wand
This New Year brightens your life
And brings you all the joys and surprises
That you could ever imagine!!!

Pinky was busy preparing the new year greeting card to her best friend. "Mom, she will be very happy on seeing this na?"She asked. "Sure darling" Meera said. "Mom, you used to give gifts to your best friend na, it will happy to see her face on opening this na?" Meera could feel all her enthisiasm in her voice.

Meera took her mobile. After her months and months of research in google, she had found her best friend's phone number. She had saved her number and used to send her greetings on special days without revealing her identity. She didn't miss any of the events birthdays, wedding anniversaries. The reply would come soon. "Who is this?". Meera would sent another message "One of your well wisher". She was sure Divya wouldn't even have a slight guess that it was she who was sending the messages.She thought of the good time spent together, how much Divya struggled to learn a new language to communicate to her. Divya had no other hobby than chatting with Meera & Dev. At times when Meera had to travel for her work, Divya enquired every minute things whether she had her food on time, the work progress everything. How a  silly misunderstanding created a 10 year gap between them. Time was running fast and Divya relocated to some other place.

She typed the message. "You are going to get the biggest surprise of this year now, Be ready". Dev was watching the television.It was nearing twelve.

"Dev, we are going to give someone a pleasant shock, All you have to do is just shout loudly "Happy new year, our dearmost friend?". Meera told while making the call. "Whom, whom are you calling?" Dev asked to which she replied "Wait and watch". They could hear phone ringing on the other side and together they greeted her. "Oh my God", Meera could hear only that much and then Divya started weeping. " I know you both would have hundred of questions to ask, but now just relax and be happy. I wanted to give a pleasant surprise gift  to the ones I love and I am happy I won". "True love is the most powerful magic in this world, and it never dies I believe." Meera told.

This post is a part of Write Over the Weekend, an initiative for Indian Bloggers by BlogAdda.

A blog post that touched me deeply

A blog post that touched me deeply

Sharing a blog post that touched me so deeply. Before I started blogging, I came to read this post. The affection and bond shared by the son and his family, I have no words to express it.
To God I have only one question, why and why this?

http://ammaana.blogspot.in/

It has been my regular activity to check the post to see any comments from the father, just to ensure they are alright. Rare are parents like these these days, who are very practical, gives freedom for their children to think on their own.

To those who doesn't know Malayalam this is a post by a father who has lost his only son.

Temptation

My second

The bus was fully crowded.I was on my way to attend seventh interview. In the morning I had went to the nearby Shiva temple and prayed. I actually was fed up of attending the interviews. Previous day I even had a heated argument with  dad. I wanted to start some business and asked him to arrange him some money. Dads advice was to start earning for ourselves and then do want all I want with money. I shouted at dad and slept without food. In my sleep, the devil and the angel argued and angel win. The angel consoled myself, yes what he told was right. I should try again. 

I started chanting some prayers. The next bus stop was the railway station and many stepped down from the bus. Luckily I got a seat. Can you please hold my bag? A man aged 60-65 asked. I readily agreed. Half an hour went by.  I woke up from a small sleep. I searched for the old man and couldn't find him. The bus now had so many vacant seats too. Oh, he has forgotten to get back the bag. I opened the bag to check if there was any contact no. Oh no, it was jewels approx 10 bangles and 3 chains all of Gold. I was shocked and didn't knew what to do. Nothing else was there in the bag. I started shivering. The bus was reaching a signal. I looked once again in the bus. No sure the man has forgotten it. Suddenly I noticed the old man was running towards the bus. He was approx 10 buses behind, he was looking at each bus and was running at the same time. Suddenly I heard the devils voice "This is the right time, Take this as the gift from GOD. Don't miss this opportunity". I closed his eyes and sat. The bus now has crossed the signal. Oh my God, what should I do? The best option for me would be to get down from the bus, take an auto and go back home, Yes I decided. I got down at the next stop. I reached the auto stand. I was tempted to take the auto and go to my home. 'No no and No'. I heard my critical inner voice telling me.  I was tempted again by the devil. "Don't loose this precious opportunity, yo will regret". I couldn't resist the temptation. I looked back again. There I saw the old man standing at the signal looking in all directions. The angel was telling, "You need to be strong enough to resist this and give back the old man his jewels."
 
I directed the auto driver to drive me to the signal. "Please check whether this is yours and everything perfect." I asked the man. He was weeping, he took the bag checked it and suddenly hugged me tightly. "Oh my dear son, how can I thank you? My younger daughter marriage is on next Sunday. I was back from the bank. Bus was heavily crowded and someone pushed out while stepping down. I don't actually know how to thank you enough." I could see tears rolling down. I told the auto driver to take him to his house. I took the next bus and went to the interview. 

The day ended with a thank you note to GOD.

Thank you God for giving me a very special day, Another chance to become a better individual. Thank you for making me strong.

Meanwhile  mom was  telling to dad "I was sure he will pass this interview". 

That day I felt I was strong, I felt God is always with me and I could feel the confidence. Yes my GOD is guarding me and he strengthens me. So believe "Everything is possible".

P.S: This is only a piece of fiction


This post is a part of Write Over the Weekend, an initiative for Indian Bloggers by BlogAdda.

Time doesn't heal all wounds

   Dear my son, to whom could I share
  The depth of the emptiness that surrounds us
  Who told Time can heal all wounds
  There instead are wounds
  Which only increase day by day

  We have only one question to the master
  Why? Why and Why?
 
 We are ready very much ready
 For the journey the very last journey
 With hope that we shall meet you
 As each day passes by we are happy
 We feel we are one day closer to you     


PS - This is my humble attempt on a poem. I read a post of a father who has lost his only son. The intention was just to imagine and  express  his feelings.  The bond between them touched me deeply.

Salt and Pepper

Salt and Pepper

It was Sunday morning. Meera woke up pretty late and switched on the radio. It was her birthday and she saw more than a dozen missed calls of Shyam in her mobile. She switched off her cell and sat in the sofa reading the paper. It has been exacly one year she talked with him.

What we are now listening is  a lecture by Dr. Madhumitha on 'Marriages - are they made in heaven'? Meera increased radio volume.

If a marriage is to be beautiful both the partners should have respect,love and  care.
Like two shakers of salt and pepper both of them are inevitable. Todays divorces happen because no one is serious in maintaning the love effects. The word 'DIVORCE' which was not known to our grandparents and not even common among our parents, has now been commom in 80% marriages. Egos, lack of care, critizing, unrealistic expectation all adds up to it.Make a councious effort to satisy your partners desires, you can see it gets reciprocated and it will be beautiful. It needs sacrifice, sharing, and selfless attitude.  If both partner does  frequent self-analysis and concentrates on correcting his/her own imperfections , then transformation comes and marriage will surely be a beautiful journey. When frustrations happens just relax relax and just rewind the good old days.

The lecture continued and Meera was rewinding the picture album in her mind. Their first meeting, the letters they mailed, the pretty lot of gifts they exchanged, the six month's wait peiod after the engagement.

She looked at clock and noticed it was noon. She switched on the mobile. There again was few missed calls from him and a message. You Are The Butter To My Bread and the breath to my life Meera. I can't miss you anymore. Shre read it again and again and tears started rolling down.

This post is a part of Write Over the Weekend, an initiative for Indian Bloggers by BlogAdda.

Stop Over Analyzing, Life is Simple

Stop Over Analyzing, Life is Simple

I was thinking of my post's topic today and this quote inspired me to write.

God has gifted us with ability to think and if we are not using this properly, it will have adverse effects.

I have observed two types of people

Type 1 - They possess almost everything that is required for a good life, but will analyze the consequence of even a simple action and make assumptions on  how things will turn around. They are focused more on future than on present moment. This over analysis process results in a combination of these feelings - anger, dissatisfaction, jealousy, fear, doubt, confusion, etc

Type 2 - They never let their thoughts control them. They perform their duties well and are always energetic. They enjoy each and every moment of their life.

Life is unpredictable.Over thinking ruins relations and creates unnecessary problems.